I have three uncles. Two of them are smart, and one of them isn't exactly the brightest crayon in the box if you know what I mean.
My mom called him up to inform him of my engagment, and he goes "wait, is she engaged or is she getting married?"
umm...is there a difference?
Then he began to give my mom a whole lecture about how its wrong that fiance and I will not be living together before we get married. So mom says "um, do you really think you are qualified to give marraige advice?" (He divorced after 6 months of marraige, and broke up with every girl he began living with after a few months); so my uncle responds "Marraige has nothing to do with divorce."
Its like, then what does it have to do with, mr. uncle? Please enlighten me!
Mom continued on speaking to him and he says (knowing fully well that fiance and I are orthodox) "Are they having a church wedding or are they doing it the Jewish way?"
this stuff really makes me put the concept of "family first" into perspective. It's like "does this include *all* family?