On one of her dates a friend of mine asked "what would you do if you had all the money in the world?"
He answered, being a businessman and stock market investor, that he would stop working and teach about investing.
My friend got annoyed at this answer, and seriously reconsidered giving him another date. I got annoyed with her for reconsidering a guy because of this. In her messed up little mind, there was no reason why a guy wouldn't sit and learn full time if he had all the money in the world. I tried to convince her that not everyone was cut-out to learn full-time, but she didn't seem interested enough to hear what I had to say.
My friend, B"H didn't reject him for this, she rejected the guy for a different reason, but regardless of the reason, she found nothing wrong with potentially rejecting someone for hypothetically not wanting to be a full time learner.
I couldn't help it and I found myself really irritated with her. I told her that if she were to marry him, and they somehow came up with alot of money (enough to never have to work again), and the guy quits working and begins teaching, that would be a good thing as long as he is doing it in a good way, and that, many times, is up to the wife. For example, say he begins to teach investing to married men in kollel. He would, in a sense, be learning vicariously. I explained, that kollel guys usually find themselves in very tough/tight financial situations. By teaching them to invest (any excess money, if say first year of marraige and wife has good job), or even if just by teaching them some form of financial literacy, would help alot of these families. I told her, that as long as he specifically says on the date that he wouldn't teach in a mitzvah sort of way, there really is no reason to break up with the guy. Not everyone is cut out for learning!!!
She was extremely stubborn and decided that Hashem wouldn't make it a mitzvah to learn if "not everyone were cut out for it", what she failed to grasp was that not everyone is cut out for FULL-time learning, infact I would feel safe betting that a large majority of lakewood is full of guys who are NOT cut out for it.
Anyway, I don't know where girls get this type of information from. She went to HS with me, and I know our HS (as retarded as it was) did not teach us that everyone is cut out for learning full-time. Maybe seminary does this? Probably just the seminary she went to because I have friends who completely frummed up at seminary yet they still understand not everyone can learn full-time!!