I just received the following from a friend of mine on facebook. It's a plea for money to help pay for a wedding for a couple in kolel:
Getting straight to the point:
I am trying to raise money. I have a friend who is getting married in a few short weeks. The bills keep piling up and they can not afford to make ends meet. Her parents and his parents are unable to help with any of the financial issues. My friend is working two jobs to pay for her wedding. She has to put down money out of her own pocket to pay for a down payment on their apartment and hall.
Her husband is sitting and learning in kollel and does not get paid. I know that many people feel that if they can not afford to live this lifestyle they should not. But this is both of their DREAMS. Both of them have struggled to become the people they are today against great odds. They are not living the kollel life because it is the thing to do they are doing it because they truly want it.
Please help them to fulfill their dream together.
I understand that people can not give a lot. Even if you can just give $10 it will add up.
I ask also if you can try to get other friends/family members to contribute as well it would be much appreciated.
Ok, So i've done posts on this type of topic before, but I couldn't resist writing another, because this really irked me.
Why would this girl work 2 jobs to pay for a wedding? Shouldn't she just pass on the wedding part? If its a "Dream" you can sacrifice on flowers, a gown, a hall, a band, and everything else a wedding entails.
Any decent Rav would marry them for "free" (a suggested donation would not cost much). Having a buffet style dinner cooked by herself and a few of her friends would cost way less as well, and would allow for her and her husband to live their "dream."
The frum community has more important things to invest their money into than two young brainwashed yeshivishe idiots who think the world owes them a living.
I'm not donating anything, and I hope this economic/credit crisis the world is currently in, shows these people that learning full time is a dumb move.
I feel like what this couple needs is a huge smack, because sometimes a little childlike disciplining works wonders.
I mean seriously... I have dreams I cannot afford as well, how come no tzedakeh organization is out there to help me?