Over shabbos we had close family friends over. The lady of the family was discussing how she wouldn't daven at a shul in which the Rav did not wear a black hat on shabbos. In the beginning she said she wouldn't go to a Rav who was clean shaven, but she took that back. She also said she wouldn't want a Rabbi who was under 30.
Anyway, her husband wears a srugi, and her family is considered "modern" and she's totally accepting of being referred to as "modern", yet her Rav has to wear a black hat.
Her husband thought she was nuts. Afterall, if someone has smicha (by orthodox standards) it really shouldn't matter if he wears a hat or not, nor should matter if he were young.
Moshe Rabenu did NOT wear a hat.
Rambam did NOT wear a hat.
Ramban did NOT wear a hat.
Hillel was really young when he became one of the greatest rabbi's and I could bet he didn't wear a hat as well...and guess what, I can bet she goes by Hillel... anyone wanna bet on that?
Focusing on whether or not a Rabbi wears a hat is full of crap. Just like with the priests there are lists of Rebbeim who have mistreated women (I guess different from the priests, considering the priests have a different sexual orientation) and, those Rebbeim wear/wore hats.
If anything kippa srugie wearers are the way to go. The people are INLINE with the world, they can focus more on what should/should not be moderated when it comes to secular society, because they actually KNOW the society they're living in. They don't live in a bubble and they have a well-rounded secular education, something very few black-hatter Rabbi's have.
She really ticked me off. That was a comment I really didn't expect from her, and I consider her one of my "normal" friends.
My non-religious relatives sometimes see guys with beards and hats walking in the street, and they automatically assume he's a Rabbi. And I'm always like "why do you think he's a Rabbi?" and they're like "well, he looks like one."
Coming from non-religious relatives is one thing, but to go and pick a Rabbi because he "looks like one" can mean you go and declare a random Amish guy a rabbi. Its really annoying. I mean, yea, I'm sure she would make sure she agrees with his points-of-view on things and such, so an Amish guy wouldn't fit because he wouldn't be knowledgable of such stuff, but a srugi wearer can be just-as knowledgable or even more knowledgable.
I took her five year old to the side, and told him "You know, Moshe Rebenu did not wear a black hat" and I plan on reminding him of that every once in a while :).
I'm so mean. :)