A newly engaged friend of mine was telling my family how she met her chosson.
She says "Family friends tried to set me up with him. I wasn't dating because I was planning on going to Israel and I generally didn't like anything I heard about him. So I said no. Then I hear that they are going to have a shabbaton with a few single girls and guys and even though I knew he would be there, I didn't think anything of it, and decided I should go. Then the host got us together, and while we didn't hit it off, I did agree to go on a date to try it out, and then 1.5 months later, we're engaged!"
I feel that having those small shabbaton meals at people's houses is a great idea. I know the idea was around for a very very long time, but it seems that no one is actually putting it into effect. Everytime I hear about a friend going somewhere its an all-girls meal or shabbos getaway and shadchanim are present. There is never any sort of mix-meal (that I hear of) unless its for older singles.
I asked my super frummy friend if she would go to a mix meal and she was like "depends on who is giving it and everything."
I said "me or a family friend"
And she said "I have to know the family friend"
Whatever. This is what the frum society is dealing with. This is why nothing practical can go into effect; they raise people to be so anti-social in terms of opposite gender interaction.
One of my friends said "why don't you make one in your house?"
I was like "Don't you think if I knew enough single guys I would've already set them up with my friends?"
These people cannot think. It's very frustrating.