The lady completely agreed with me, and told me the following story, which was just mind-boggling, but unfortunately super believable.
She used to live in Boro Park and one day she had a knock on her door, and it was a beggar. It was a frummy young guy, all dressed in his penguin-self, collecting money for his wedding.
My friend was not dressed tzniously (as she was conservative and not frum), but was dressed in a robe that was sleeveless.
The guy, asked for money, and then started explaining how my friend should not be dressed the way she was, and that she needed sleeves! Then he again, asked for money.
My friend was rightfully pissed off, and she said to him "I work hard, and I pay for things, on my own. if YOU are getting married, *you* should have a job and work too, I will not give you any money, because you're younger and able-bodied and perfectly capable of getting a job. If you can't pay for your wedding, you shouldn't be getting married. and if you're poor, you just shouldn't be having a wedding, only a chupah."
The guy was annoyed and left.
Chutzpah! Talking about tznius, being a lazy leech, while expecting others to pick up the tab!