During a d'var Torah someone recently gave the concept of chillul hashem came up. The speaker said that Jews are looked upon as those who should be better than others, so if we're seen doing something wrong, it's all over newspapers, similarly if something we're doing right is perceived as wrong the newspapers get that as well. The speaker's point was, that we're supposed to not do things that can be perceived as bad, even though they're NOT bad. I have a major problem with that. I personally don't care very much what others think, and I don't think we can do half the things we do if we worry about what the goyim think.
For example, there's kolel. If we really worried about Chillul Hashem we'd ban kollel. It's only a matter of time until the media gets insight on the fact that ABLE-BODIED men in areas like Lakewood are sitting around on welfare, with five kids. Their wives having crappy jobs, and they refusing to work because they "need" to "learn."
What about shidduchim? What about that WSJ article Single Jewish Female Seeks Stress Relief? The article portrays how pathetic our dating system is. We're frum Jews, we're not supposed to pressure our daughters into marrying a random idiot to avoid being "old maids" by 25. There's something seriously pathetic about that. This entire concept is truly a chillul hashem.
What about how yeshivot are open on national holidays? What message does that send? We can live here but not give a damn about your holidays?
Or how about the fact that there's no shaking hands at job interviews or at rewards ceremonies? What kind of message does that send? How about the fact that Jews are so oversexed that they refuse to SHAKEhands at interviews.
-While there's good in having a FEW full-time learners, having any at all would be a chillul hashem.
- While certain aspects of shidduch dating are good (none of the wasting time), none of it would be allowed because the entire referencing and driving girls crazy with all the pressure, is a chillul hashem.
Personally I think the frum community is a walking chillul hashem, but what do I know? I'm a BT and modern.