Thank you to Moshe for giving me the idea for this post.
As a child of people who grew up in the former Soviet Union, I've been told countless number of stories on government curruption and fear of the secret service, the KGB. Then when I became frum and actually joined a frum institution -my pathetic high"school" - I realized that I was partially living the curruption my parents lived through. The similiarities between fearing the KGB and fearing your HS principal are not-few. The frum world is a mini corrupt government and we willingly adhere to the rules. For the next few weeks, every Thursday, I'll be posting comparisons of the KGB run society to the frummy run society.
Part 1 --> The inability to express oneself.
In the former Soviet Union the KGB was everywhere. Not necessarily actual trained KGB spies, but regular citizens who spied. These people constantly ratted out their friends and neighbors. If one was heard saying something against the government, it was possible that they'd be killed, imprisoned or sent to Siberia. If someone were caught doing anything not approved by the KGB or the psycho in charge, they'd constantly fear death.
While in the frum community saying something against the klal doesn't lead to death, the risk of being overheard is grave. For example if one talks about how stupid certain people are, or about how messed up the yeshivish system is, it is VERY much considered to be bad for shidduchim. If you get the wrong shidduch, you can't get into the right social circles, and then your kids can't get into the right schools and camps and you're as good as dead when it comes to anything in the community.
I had a friend who wasn't frum at all. She was in my school (the main program not the BT program) because her parents wanted her to be in a yeshiva. One day she and her older sister were kissing their boyfriends in their building lobby (NOT in uniform). A Rabbi that lived in her building, who knew my school principal, took a picture of them and then showed it to my principal. They were not allowed to come back to school the following year.
If you reread my post on HS being a brainwashing factory, you'd realize that the spy network is alive and well in the frum community. Two girls were expelled because they were caught in Florida wearing bikini's. So, basically expressing oneself is prohibited in the frum community, just as much as in the former Soviet Union.